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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2020 9:08:23 GMT 1
So I did a 1 week course just recently and I met a girl but the situation is this:
-course is now over but I didnt get any contact details -I was thinking of calling the course manager and saying something along the lines of I accidentally put her sunglasses into my backpack without looking and if they could forward my details to her and so forth -yes there was a connection, we flirted a few times
Why didnt I just do something during the course? I hesitated as I couldnt get a read on her: -she's Syrian: i know i shouldnt think like this but I considered it to be a health warning for obvious reasons- psycho ex middle east boyfriends, gangsters and terrorists. That aspect you simply cant ignore, well for me anyway (apologies in advance if Ive offended anyone). Also she doesnt live in the best area -couldve been a bored housewife as if someone like that wouldnt be married, well same could be said for me but you know what I mean
So the question is: should I drop it or try my luck?
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Post by Grandmaster on Oct 25, 2020 9:36:23 GMT 1
You'd better regret trying and failing (if that happens and why would it?) than regret not trying at all.
Take it from me as someone who passed up some great things (events, people ao) in life, dont do that.
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Post by ArArArchStanton on Oct 25, 2020 11:04:43 GMT 1
So I did a 1 week course just recently and I met a girl but the situation is this:
-course is now over but I didnt get any contact details -I was thinking of calling the course manager and saying something along the lines of I accidentally put her sunglasses into my backpack without looking and if they could forward my details to her and so forth -yes there was a connection, we flirted a few times
Why didnt I just do something during the course? I hesitated as I couldnt get a read on her: -she's Syrian: i know i shouldnt think like this but I considered it to be a health warning for obvious reasons- psycho ex middle east boyfriends, gangsters and terrorists. That aspect you simply cant ignore, well for me anyway (apologies in advance if Ive offended anyone). Also she doesnt live in the best area -couldve been a bored housewife as if someone like that wouldnt be married, well same could be said for me but you know what I mean
So the question is: should I drop it or try my luck? Agreed with Biz, better to throw one line out there. Sounds like they’d have to pass a message on though. Do you know her name enough to find her on Facebook or something?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2020 11:17:57 GMT 1
So I did a 1 week course just recently and I met a girl but the situation is this:
-course is now over but I didnt get any contact details -I was thinking of calling the course manager and saying something along the lines of I accidentally put her sunglasses into my backpack without looking and if they could forward my details to her and so forth -yes there was a connection, we flirted a few times
Why didnt I just do something during the course? I hesitated as I couldnt get a read on her: -she's Syrian: i know i shouldnt think like this but I considered it to be a health warning for obvious reasons- psycho ex middle east boyfriends, gangsters and terrorists. That aspect you simply cant ignore, well for me anyway (apologies in advance if Ive offended anyone). Also she doesnt live in the best area -couldve been a bored housewife as if someone like that wouldnt be married, well same could be said for me but you know what I mean
So the question is: should I drop it or try my luck? Agreed with Biz, better to throw one line out there. Sounds like they’d have to pass a message on though. Do you know her name enough to find her on Facebook or something? I tried, nada. Thing is I dont know her surname. Even though she speaks fluent English, her first name (a common one), might be spelled differently Also it doesnt help that my name on fb isnt real either lol. I eventually changed it so I wouldnt get random friend requests. Only those that actually know me but I dont really use it that much anymore anyway. Just pretty much fb messenger only for me and usually on my phone (separate apps too)
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Post by ArArArchStanton on Oct 25, 2020 11:26:54 GMT 1
Agreed with Biz, better to throw one line out there. Sounds like they’d have to pass a message on though. Do you know her name enough to find her on Facebook or something? I tried, nada. Thing is I dont know her surname. Even though she speaks fluent English, her first name (a common one), might be spelled differently Also it doesnt help that my name on fb isnt real either lol. I eventually changed it so I wouldnt get random friend requests. Only those that actually know me but I dont really use it that much anymore anyway. Just pretty much fb messenger only for me and usually on my phone (separate apps too) hummmm, I can't honestly think of any good way to do it then, that sucks man :-(
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2020 11:30:11 GMT 1
I tried, nada. Thing is I dont know her surname. Even though she speaks fluent English, her first name (a common one), might be spelled differently Also it doesnt help that my name on fb isnt real either lol. I eventually changed it so I wouldnt get random friend requests. Only those that actually know me but I dont really use it that much anymore anyway. Just pretty much fb messenger only for me and usually on my phone (separate apps too) hummmm, I can't honestly think of any good way to do it then, that sucks man :-( It's cool. It is what it is. Ill probs just call the course co-ordinator, just need to think on this more
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2020 19:26:41 GMT 1
Been there. Reminds me of college. Honestly I think it’s too late. In my experience once you miss your chance it’s best to move on. I’m thinking of some very cringey memories right now. LOL
In your case it’ll be hard to contact her without raising questions of how you found her.
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Post by AQUA JAR!™ on Oct 25, 2020 19:32:58 GMT 1
you might as well try
if she ends up being married ( or whatever ) then at least you can put it to rest
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Post by Jayman on Oct 26, 2020 8:11:25 GMT 1
Been there myself biz. In my case I actually looked her number up in the phone book. Before the days of cellphones. That did not go well for me but I just had to try. You otherwise wouldn’t see her again so you have nothing to lose here so it is worth considering it.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2020 8:24:09 GMT 1
Been there myself biz. In my case I actually looked her number up in the phone book. Before the days of cellphones. That did not go well for me but I just had to try. You otherwise wouldn’t see her again so you have nothing to lose here so it is worth considering it. Well I managed to get her email address from the course co-ordinator and sent her a message. Either way Ill know in a couple or three days time if she's still interested lol Thanks for the input guys
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Post by Grandmaster on Oct 26, 2020 9:37:03 GMT 1
Been there myself biz. In my case I actually looked her number up in the phone book. Before the days of cellphones. That did not go well for me but I just had to try. You otherwise wouldn’t see her again so you have nothing to lose here so it is worth considering it. Well I managed to get her email address from the course co-ordinator and sent her a message. Either way Ill know in a couple or three days time if she's still interested lol Thanks for the input guys Good for you. Well we are rooting for you.
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 27, 2020 22:08:09 GMT 1
So I did a 1 week course just recently and I met a girl but the situation is this:
-course is now over but I didnt get any contact details -I was thinking of calling the course manager and saying something along the lines of I accidentally put her sunglasses into my backpack without looking and if they could forward my details to her and so forth -yes there was a connection, we flirted a few times
Why didnt I just do something during the course? I hesitated as I couldnt get a read on her: -she's Syrian: i know i shouldnt think like this but I considered it to be a health warning for obvious reasons- psycho ex middle east boyfriends, gangsters and terrorists. That aspect you simply cant ignore, well for me anyway (apologies in advance if Ive offended anyone). Also she doesnt live in the best area -couldve been a bored housewife as if someone like that wouldnt be married, well same could be said for me but you know what I mean
So the question is: should I drop it or try my luck? Been there myself biz. In my case I actually looked her number up in the phone book. Before the days of cellphones. That did not go well for me but I just had to try. You otherwise wouldn’t see her again so you have nothing to lose here so it is worth considering it. Been there myself biz. In my case I actually looked her number up in the phone book. Before the days of cellphones. That did not go well for me but I just had to try. You otherwise wouldn’t see her again so you have nothing to lose here so it is worth considering it. Well I managed to get her email address from the course co-ordinator and sent her a message. Either way Ill know in a couple or three days time if she's still interested lol Thanks for the input guys Well, mate looks like you don't need my advice after all since you went ahead and tried something and good for you! I was going to suggest something similar to what jay mentioned or as Bob Dylan, lousy singer and good songwriter, has: When ya ain't got nuthin, ya ain't got nuthin to lose! And I can also certainly empathize being a shy mostly homebody myself even pre Covid. Yeah, it is not easy to hit up on girls without seeming like it is hitting up or for me it felt awkward and did it only when it felt right which is when we would be talking and I knew she was single. I used to do it when I went out more but now I just do the online thing where you know they are available and it is not embarrassing because they are showing they want to be talked to. Keep us updated and lots of good luck.
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