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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 21, 2020 7:16:12 GMT 1
Just kinda venting and sharing and not really looking for any advice...
So I connected with this chick from an online dating site. We have yet to meet in person, hopefully soon, but have been having what I thought were pretty good online chats. She said it is rare to talk with someone about intelligent things, likes to explore in regards to talking and says that I am more elaborate than her when it comes to corresponding. So then I asked her about astrology and if that influences her thinking about life being predetermined. She came back with what read like a sharp tone to me of saying that she doesn't think as deep as I do about stuff and doesn't care for answers and who knows and why are we talking about this? (Not the exact words but that is the gist.)
I replied with: Just making inquiries for explorations for possibilities as well to get clarification to understand your thoughts on things.
Her response was that usually things are kept lighthearted at this stage of which I agreed to just to humor her.
I dunno man. I thought she wanted to explore different ways of wondering of things that are unseen and unknown. So now we have to keep the conversations about unicorns, ice cream cones and puppies only? It's not that I don't mind talking about those things. It's just that I thought I had finally found someone to explore the questions of the mysteries of life with and at first she seemed open to it.
So that does it. That really fucking does it. I know nothing at all about math, chemistry, physics or anything scientific but I have decided to become a rocket scientist because I will have a better chance at understanding rocket science then I ever will about women!
Women! Shit. Fuck me!
Wait. What? I mean... Oh hell, you know what I mean. Not fucking me literally in this sense!
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Post by Grandmaster on Oct 21, 2020 8:44:33 GMT 1
Yeah its easier find alien life forms than to understand a woman. Even for women themselves.
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Post by ArArArchStanton on Oct 21, 2020 13:15:09 GMT 1
Sorry man,
It’s weird how you can get along with somebody well but then something you consider a normal conversation with other people can suddenly be so rejected.
Personally speaking when somebody brings up something I’m not completely into I usually try to stay in the conversation by matching it with something that has a similar meaning to me. So I’m actually not into astrology myself but I am super into astronomy, and the wonder I feel considering the scale and origin of the cosmos is something I would at least find relatable.
Really sorry that didn’t work out for you.
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Post by AQUA JAR!™ on Oct 21, 2020 16:51:20 GMT 1
You have my sympathies, mang.
I guess I am lucky, I have never really had to do the dating thing.
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Post by Jayman on Oct 21, 2020 16:59:15 GMT 1
Don’t sweat it Dave. I haven’t done the online thing in many years but I remember how misunderstandings can happen and sometimes the ones I felt the strongest connection online with i felt the least connection with in person anyway and vice versa. So you never know with these things and I hope you meet her soon and put all of this confusion behind you.
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 21, 2020 19:02:20 GMT 1
Sorry man, It’s weird how you can get along with somebody well but then something you consider a normal conversation with other people can suddenly be so rejected. Personally speaking when somebody brings up something I’m not completely into I usually try to stay in the conversation by matching it with something that has a similar meaning to me. So I’m actually not into astrology myself but I am super into astronomy, and the wonder I feel considering the scale and origin of the cosmos is something I would at least find relatable. Really sorry that didn’t work out for you. You have my sympathies, mang. I guess I am lucky, I have never really had to do the dating thing. Don’t sweat it Dave. I haven’t done the online thing in many years but I remember how misunderstandings can happen and sometimes the ones I felt the strongest connection online with i felt the least connection with in person anyway and vice versa. So you never know with these things and I hope you meet her soon and put all of this confusion behind you. Thanx guys. Yeah, I dunno if we get along if we will ever get into the stuff that are mysteries to inquire about them rhetorically or if all what we would talk about is sports scores and movies which to me could get boring and I have this place for movie talk. Only way to find out is by asking her and I'm too nervous to do that right now! I dunno. All I can do is wait and see and figure when it's the right time to bring it up again which may be if I meet her.
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 21, 2020 19:10:41 GMT 1
Yeah its easier find alien life forms than to understand a woman. Even for women themselves. So true! It may take a few more decades, centuries or even a millenium or two until we find the answers to alien life forms and we still won't get women! Gee. I wonder if I bring up the questions of aliens if that would be too heavy for her to discuss?
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Post by Jayman on Oct 21, 2020 20:11:03 GMT 1
Sorry man, It’s weird how you can get along with somebody well but then something you consider a normal conversation with other people can suddenly be so rejected. Personally speaking when somebody brings up something I’m not completely into I usually try to stay in the conversation by matching it with something that has a similar meaning to me. So I’m actually not into astrology myself but I am super into astronomy, and the wonder I feel considering the scale and origin of the cosmos is something I would at least find relatable. Really sorry that didn’t work out for you. You have my sympathies, mang. I guess I am lucky, I have never really had to do the dating thing. Don’t sweat it Dave. I haven’t done the online thing in many years but I remember how misunderstandings can happen and sometimes the ones I felt the strongest connection online with i felt the least connection with in person anyway and vice versa. So you never know with these things and I hope you meet her soon and put all of this confusion behind you. Thanx guys. Yeah, I dunno if we get along if we will ever get into the stuff that are mysteries to inquire about them rhetorically or if all what we would talk about is sports scores and movies which to me could get boring and I have this place for movie talk. Only way to find out is by asking her and I'm too nervous to do that right now! I dunno. All I can do is wait and see and figure when it's the right time to bring it up again which may be if I meet her. Don't forget about the weather keep us posted, we're pullin for ya buddy
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2020 21:50:14 GMT 1
All I gotta say on this is a) she's either testing you or b) letting her emotions get the better of her
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2020 0:10:29 GMT 1
I stopped online dating...no thank you
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 22, 2020 2:24:26 GMT 1
I stopped online dating...no thank you Welp, so much for me asking you out!
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 26, 2020 20:17:01 GMT 1
The good news is that I ended up meeting this chick after all.
The bad news is that she was really fat. Now I don't have a problem dating chubby or fat women since those are the chicks I pretty much have in my history and go for. We all have our preferences and there is just something about skinny women I find unattractive. Maybe it's because I could lose a bunch of pounds myself and am working on it. Whatever. Anyway, I knew she was going to be a big girl since she was in her photos but those must have been older pics since she looked much bigger than them.
Even so, the more we hung out and talked there was some chemistry, some attraction there and I was sorta hoping that we might have had some affection as I did with my last GF on our first meeting.
No big (Ha!) deal if nothing happens with us. I just wish she had been the same size girl in those photos.
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Post by Jayman on Oct 26, 2020 20:48:33 GMT 1
The good news is that I ended up meeting this chick after all. The bad news is that she was really fat. Now I don't have a problem dating chubby or fat women since those are the chicks I pretty much have in my history and go for. We all have our preferences and there is just something about skinny women I find unattractive. Maybe it's because I could lose a bunch of pounds myself and am working on it. Whatever. Anyway, I knew she was going to be a big girl since she was in her photos but those must have been older pics since she looked much bigger than them. Even so, the more we hung out and talked there was some chemistry, some attraction there and I was sorta hoping that we might have had some affection as I did with my last GF on our first meeting. No big (Ha!) deal if nothing happens with us. I just wish she had been the same size girl in those photos. That has happened to me before. It is good you tried Dave, and maybe something will happen between you two and you said there was some chemistry and some attraction there so that is a good start.
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Post by Dave Stoller on Oct 26, 2020 20:55:39 GMT 1
The good news is that I ended up meeting this chick after all. The bad news is that she was really fat. Now I don't have a problem dating chubby or fat women since those are the chicks I pretty much have in my history and go for. We all have our preferences and there is just something about skinny women I find unattractive. Maybe it's because I could lose a bunch of pounds myself and am working on it. Whatever. Anyway, I knew she was going to be a big girl since she was in her photos but those must have been older pics since she looked much bigger than them. Even so, the more we hung out and talked there was some chemistry, some attraction there and I was sorta hoping that we might have had some affection as I did with my last GF on our first meeting. No big (Ha!) deal if nothing happens with us. I just wish she had been the same size girl in those photos. That has happened to me before. It is good you tried Dave, and maybe something will happen between you two and you said there was some chemistry and some attraction there so that is a good start. Thanx man. She has expressed some doubt too. So I dunno. It won't be a let down if it doesn't happen. I always have a hard time being the dumper even though there may not be any hurt feelings on either end!
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